We often speak with parents who are interested in support to tackle improving their baby or child’s sleep habits. These conversations often drift to the question “How long is this going to take?” Which often translates to, “I am willing to try something for 10 minutes / 1 night / insert your fantasy timeframe here.” If we frame the sleep learning process like any other learning process, you will better understand why it is hard for us to say exactly how long it will take your child to practice and master a new way to sleep.
Like learning to walk, some children catch on incredibly quickly and others take their time. It is unlikely, even for the most adaptable child, to undo months and years of habits in ten minutes or one night. Your child’s temperament and the approach you choose to take will dictate how slowly or rapidly progress is made as well as how linear progress feels.
Many families see results within just a few nights and others, who choose to make very gradual changes, take several weeks to achieve the same goals. Additionally, things such as physical and cognitive leaps, teething, and illness can all delay progress and are entirely beyond our control. Think of them as speed bumps…they may slow us down but we will still get where we are going.
One of the most important things you can do before approaching the sleep learning process is get your own head in the game. If your expectations are not aligned with what your child's process might look like, you/they will not get through it. Here are 3 things to consider before you dive in:
This is a MAJOR MILESTONE for your kiddo.
Much like walking, there is no way to know or dictate how long it will take from introduction to mastery. How many little ones have you seen learn to fully walk in one day - or even several days AND not have a misstep once they do?
Sleep Learning is a PROCESS.
Make sure you take some time to set your child up for success by taking time to assess the timing of sleep and the routine leading up to sleep, as well as giving adequate time for your child to adjust to this new process. Many families will see some level of improvement within 4-7 days/nights of implementing their plan consistently.
Comfort starts at home.
Meaning, if your kiddo hasn't had enough time to grasp the concept and feel comfortable with it AT HOME with their parent(s)/caregiver(s), it is highly unlikely they will be able to be successful if we change the scenario, for example, by heading on vacation or totally changing the sleep routine or environment.
Adjusting your mindset to reflect reasonable expectations and knowing that "reasonable" varies from child to child-will set you and your kiddo up for a smoother experience as well as success.
The next question that often comes up is Do families meet their goals within the 4 weeks included in the consultation with follow up support?
In most cases, yes. For some families it is more time than they need to reach their goals, in which case we use the remaining time to look ahead to impending schedule changes and how to handle potential setbacks such as teething, illness, travel, etc.
Families who don’t quite achieve their goals in the allotted time are usually those who choose to make sleep changes super gradually, a process which takes longer than average timelines. In that case, families can choose to continue with their sleep plan on their own or purchase and utilize additional support as needed using our returning family options.
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