Questions from Readers…
Markal1012 on Instagram asked, “On day four of using the “oh crap potty training method” with our 2.5 year old son. He’s having “success” in that he’s making pees and poops on the potty with very few accidents yet there’s much anxiety leading up to each successful pee or poop. He asks to go multiple times before he actually goes but will sit for less than a second before saying he can’t or he’s “scared” and then eventually when he can’t hold it anymore he’ll get very upset, go on the potty, feel so proud, and then repeats the cycle again. Any suggestions for how to reduce his anxiety/fear or will this come with time?”
Thanks for the question. It sounds like he’s off to a great (and very typical) start! Once the novelty of the process wears off with time, the anxiety should as well. I would keep at it and make sure you 1) don’t add any pressure to the process by prompting him to sit often and especially when he doesn’t actually need to go 2) offer touch support if he wants/needs it such as sitting with him and wrapping your arms around him and hugging him while he sits 3) talk A LOT about how it feels before he lets it out and especially after he lets it out. For example, when he’s tip toeing around or doing a dance before sitting down you might say, “It looks like your tummy is uncomfortable. You would feel so much better if you let your pee pee/poop out in the potty.” And, once he has let it out, “Well done! Your tummy must feel so much better now that you let it out!” You want to help him make that connection between feeling uncomfortable versus comfortable and help him realize that letting it out the first time is the solution. I hope that helps!
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